Psychology of Maa Skandamata
Navratri Day 5 | Understanding the Power of Being There for Someone
Sometimes, a person does not need advice, solutions or motivational words. They simply need someone who will listen without judging them.
In a world that often celebrates achievement and independence, we can overlook one of the most fundamental human needs: feeling understood and supported.
On the fifth day of Navratri, devotees worship Maa Skandamata, the divine mother of Lord Skanda, also known as Kartikeya. Her traditional depiction with her child in her lap offers a powerful image of nurturing care and the bond between a caregiver and a child.
Psychology provides an interesting perspective on this symbolism through attachment theory, which explores how relationships with caregivers can influence a person’s sense of connection, trust and emotional development.
Studies found associations between more secure parent–child attachment and children’s emotional experiences, emotion regulation and coping strategies.
These findings highlight the importance of supportive relationships in development, without suggesting that one relationship determines a person’s entire future.
The message extends beyond parenting. A partner who listens attentively, a friend who remains present during a difficult period, or a teacher who responds with understanding can make a meaningful difference in another person’s experience.
However, genuine care is not the same as controlling someone’s choices or solving every problem for them. Sometimes, helping means offering guidance. At other times, it means allowing a person to learn, make decisions and grow independently.
Care becomes meaningful when support and respect exist together.
Maa Skandamata’s symbolism invites us to look at devotion through this relational lens. During prayer, we may reflect not only on the care we hope to receive, but also on the quality of care we offer to others. Do we listen to understand, or simply wait for our turn to speak?
Do we support people’s growth, or expect them to live according to our preferences?
A simple reflection for today: Think of one person who matters to you. Give them your undivided attention for a few minutes. Listen without interrupting or immediately offering solutions. Ask what kind of support they need, and respect their answer.
If you are the person who always supports everyone else, remember that receiving care is also part of healthy human connection. You do not have to carry every responsibility alone.
Maa Skandamata reminds us, through her sacred symbolism, of the tenderness and responsibility associated with nurturing life. Psychology helps us appreciate how responsive, supportive relationships can contribute to healthy human development.
This Navratri, let our prayers inspire us to become people with whom others feel heard, respected and supported.
For sometimes, one of the most meaningful expressions of devotion is not what we ask the Divine to do for someone, but how we choose to be present for them ourselves.
Rakesh Babu
Psychologist | Faculty @ The Art Of Living
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