Psychology of Maa Skandamata
Navratri Day 5 | Understanding the Power of Being There for Someone
Sometimes, a person does not need advice, solutions or motivational words. They simply need someone who will listen without judging them.
In a world that often celebrates achievement and independence, we can overlook one of the most fundamental human needs: feeling understood and supported.
On the fifth day of Navratri, devotees worship Maa Skandamata, the divine mother of Lord Skanda, also known as Kartikeya. Her traditional depiction with her child in her lap offers a powerful image of nurturing care and the bond between a caregiver and a child.
Psychology provides an interesting perspective on this symbolism through attachment theory, which explores how relationships with caregivers can influence a person’s sense of connection, trust and emotional development.
Studies found associations between more secure parent–child attachment and children’s emotional experiences, emotion regulation and coping strategies.
These findings highlight the importance of supportive relationships in development, without suggesting that one relationship determines a person’s entire future.
The message extends beyond parenting. A partner who listens attentively, a friend who remains present during a difficult period, or a teacher who responds with understanding can make a meaningful difference in another person’s experience.
However, genuine care is not the same as controlling someone’s choices or solving every problem for them. Sometimes, helping means offering guidance. At other times, it means allowing a person to learn, make decisions and grow independently.