Possessiveness – A Poison Of The Mind

#Possessiveness is a #Poison of the #Mind!

It is not just poison, it is a #pain too. Experts says that Possessiveness is due to unrealistic expectations.

This happens with people, money, things etc., It becomes danger when it crosses the boundary in relationships. Relationships may be between parents and children, life partners, friends, office colleagues. At some point, the “so called” CARE will change into “Over Protectiveness”. This will be a real torture to the partner.

Possessiveness is kind of a mental pressure that the person encounters and also radiate it to the counterparts. It is a fear of loss of belongings, persons etc., This creates fear, anger, anxiety and loneliness.

Trust is a vital aspect of a healthy relationship. In order to trust, you must feel your partner is reliable, cares about you, and can be counted on. You can see abusive relationship when the partner lose the trust. They feel insecured.

In the name of love and care, they do overprotection!

✍️ Few Signs of Possessiveness:

• Monitor your phone and emails.
• Tell what to wear.
• Text you nonstop.
• Control you and rob your privacy.
• Gaslight you.
• Stop you talk to your friends.
• They will be jealous
• In the name of protection, they will restrict you from being connected to the social network.

It is imperative to understand that the partner is possessive at early stage. Talk to them that it is not good for the relationship. It will ruin the happiness in between them. It will affect physically, mentally and emotionally.

It will reduce the self-esteem, confidence, trust.

Possessiveness is not love, it is simply projected fear and insecurity.

Either, they can sit and talk about this to overcome this issue. Else, they need strong support from a Psychological Consultant.

Some may ask, how come a third person can help them in such issues. It is similar to a patient approaches doctors for their health issues.

Licensed or Authorized and Competent #Psychologists, #Therapists, #Relationship #healers can certainly help them when they themselves are unable to deal with this problem.

✍️ How to deal the possessive partner?

• Love them and give little extra care
• Listen to what they say and address the problem
• When they want to talk to you, be available for them.
• Communicate properly and set proper, realistic goals.
• Don’t argue or justify for what you have done.

Appreciating your comments on this topic.

Disclaimer: Image source – Workplace Mental Health Institute. With gratitude, sharing the image for knowledge sharing.

In Gratitude,

N.R.Rakesh Babu
Psychologist | Doctoral Researcher
www.rakeshbabu.com | www.rbac.in