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Balanced EQ for Happy SELF!

“IQ is Important but EQ is Sine Qua Non of Leadership!” – Daniel Goleman

Without Love and Compassion, we are going to win nothing in this world. I strongly believe in this. Every other aspects of our life is important in a right proportion. The one with more love is more stronger.

As we grow big, we love to lead happy life. For a happy life, as Daniel Goleman Said, Emotional Quotient is important as much as Intelligence Quotient.

EQ is the ability to understand, utilize & manage your own emotions in better ways to de-stress, effective communication, empathize with others and to overcome challenges in day-to-day life.

When we know how to improve our EQ, it helps us to build ourself a better version in terms of intra-personal, inter-personal relationships and to achieve our goals.

FIVE Elements of Emotional Intelligence are:

  1. Self-Awareness: A person with emotional self-awareness is usually receptive to, and able to learn from, constructive criticism more than one who doesn’t have emotional self-awareness.
  2. Self-Regulation: A person with a high emotional intelligence has the ability to exercise restraint and control when expressing their emotions.
  3. Social Skills: People who are emotionally intelligent are able to build trust with other people, and are able to quickly gain respect from the people they meet.
  4. Empathy: An empathetic person has compassion and is able to connect with other people on an emotional level, helping them respond genuinely to other people’s concerns.
  5. Motivation: People with high emotional intelligence are self-motivated, resilient and driven by an inner ambition rather than being influenced by outside forces, such as money or prestige.

Balanced EQ for Happy SELF!

S – Stress Free

E – Emotionally Stable

L – Locus Of Control

F – Fantabulous Life Guaranteed

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In #Gratitude,
N.R.Rakesh Babu
Psychologist | Doctoral Researcher
www.rakeshbabu.com | www.rbac.in

Garbage Truck Theory!

“What if you could take control of your life with one decision? You Can.” – David J. Pollay

 

How often does a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive relative ruin your day with a thoughtless action, an angry rant, or a snide remark? And how often have you ruined someone else’s day?

In The Law of the Garbage Truck, David J. Pollay shows us that by refusing to let others dump their “garbage” (negativity, anger, resentment) on us-and letting it “pass by” instead-we become happier and more successful, both personally and professionally. And when we stop dumping garbage on others, we improve our relationships, strengthen our businesses, and bring our communities together.

Twenty years ago, while riding in a New York City taxi, syndicated columnist and business consultant David J. Pollay narrowly escaped a life-threatening car crash. The driver who almost caused the accident and started yelling at the cab driver, who remarkably just smiled, waved, and wished him well. Pollay asked how the cabbie could remain so calm, and his response sparked the defining principle of The Law of the Garbage Truck.

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment…And if you let them, they’ll dump it on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don’t take it personally…move on.

Now Pollay shows you how to apply his Law in this remarkable audio book that can help you:

• Avoid getting dumped on by rude, thoughtless, and angry people

• Stop reliving the negative in your past, and fearing the future

• Focus on what you can control, not the negative things you can’t

• Reduce incivility wherever you find it, and stop bullies in their tracks

• Improve your relationships by not dumping on your friends, parents, spouse or coworkers

• Find happiness again after dealing with illness, loss, and personal tragedy

• Increase productivity, respect, and cooperation by creating a No Garbage Trucks! Zone in your business, school, and home

• Gain the courage to enjoy every day, do what you love, and make a difference

© 2010 Ascent Audio (Audiobook) ISBN: 9781596596023

Anger – “D”anger!

“Anger is One Letter Short of Danger! – Eleanor Roosevelt”

Anger can create any sort of Danger at any point of time, as it is one of the challenging emotions that we deal with. When we are angry, our mind is not in our control and it will be like a vortex. To calm down the vortex, we should be still and calm for sometime. It helps to come out of the Danger Zone.

Anger leads to poor choice of words while we talk, poor decision through thought process, it can break the relationships.

So long as we don’t know how the anger affects our body and mind, we don’t deal with it properly. That’s the truth. In this article, I help the readers to demonstrate with the help of the picture which I got it from NICABM.

Emotional Vortex not only stir your mind but also the body! I re-iterate this Mind-Body connection in most of my posts. It is inter-connected.

How Anger Affects Your Brain & Body?

Anger is an Emotion – That triggers “Amygdala” -> Amygdala Activates Hypothalamus -> It Signals Pituitary Gland -> Adrenal Glands -> It then secretes Stress Hormones!

It is necessary to educate this simple mechanism right from the school to avoid unnecessary anger that creates right from the childhood, else it will aggravate and the adulthood will become a mess. Early education will help the society for non-violence.

Psychologists/Therapists can educate this mechanism to their clients also for the better understanding.

To Stay Calm in Anger: Take Few Deep Breaths | Observe Your Breath | Let it come Normal | Drink a cup of water | If needed Take a short Nap

When you are normal, think about the source of Anger – It may be disappointment, Fear, Frustration, Judgement, Rejection or anything else. Start working on that, you will be alright.

I read a recent Tweet from Global Humanitarian and Peace Ambassador Gurudev Sri Sri Ravishankar, he states, “Anger is the punishment one gives oneself for someone else’s mistake. #SaveYourMind at all costs.”

Let us not put the remote control of our happiness in other’s pockets.

This post can help the readers in a certain way to make themselves calm and to help others by understanding the reality or practical happenings in our health system.

Mental health fraternities are working towards peaceful lives. Let Peace Prevail In This World. Peace Starts From Us!

Disclaimer: The attached picture’s source is “National Institute of Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine’s website”. Picture Credits to the original creator.

In Gratitude – N.R.Rakesh Babu | Psychologist | PhD Research Scholar
www.rakeshbabu.com | www.rbac.in